Can princesses have abortions? – 公主可以堕胎吗 – English

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When children bring up ‘unmentionables’ early than expected, they shouldn’t be laughed at, and certainly not punished or made examples of.

Once upon a time, there was a kingdom, in which the King and Queen were desperately begging the Prince to find a princess to marry. The King commanded all the eligible girls to be rounded up for the Prince to take his pick. The Prince chose a girl named Lina, and married her. One day, Lina went out to play with a young man named Vladimir, and told the Prince that Vladimir was her former boyfriend. Vladimir told the Prince that Lina was carrying his child. The Prince gave Lina a choice: stay with him, but get rid of the child, or stay with Vladimir, and get divorced. Lina chose to have an abortion. The Prince summoned a famous doctor. Lina drank a concoction the doctor made, and had the Prince strike her stomach twenty times. Blood flowed, and the baby was no more. From that day, the Prince and the Princess lived happily together.

This is a piece a Fuzhou third grader wrote for a test. When the teacher saw it, he gave it -10 points, and then ‘shared’ a photo of it with friends on Weibo. Then the media picked it up, and ran a story about how it made people shudder and break out in a cold sweat. Netizens wailed and moaned about how the poison of television dramas had penetrated deeply into today’s children.

For a really bad piece of work, a teacher can give a low mark, even a zero, but a negative score? Obviously, -10 is a very harsh, punitive grade. And even that didn’t satisfy the teacher; his ‘sharing’ was really more like naming and shaming. Just in case the student, the parents, and friends had trouble identifying the culprit, he included a photo of the handwriting, and gave the student’s name.

直到媒体找上门来,这位老师大概才觉得有什么不对,拒绝了采访。但是老师的拒绝并没有让记者有丝毫的反省,仍然进行了危言耸听的报道。网民们大呼小叫,几乎没有谁发现老师和媒体有什么问题,纷纷转发,写下无数贬损孩子的评论。

一个小学生,结合自己了解的现实生活,改写童话故事,想象丰富,文字畅达,逻辑通顺,故事完整,难道不是一篇好作文吗?尤其可贵的是,作文中体现了尊重、包容和平等的思想。首先,他记录并讽刺了父母“催婚”的现象。其次,他能想到,国王滥用权力,举国选亲,被选中的陌生成年女子,有过男朋友,甚至怀有身孕,这是很正常的情况。这比那些死抱着“处女情结”的成年人,不知道要高明多少倍。第三,王子、公主和前男友都能坦然处理婚恋麻烦。王子知道公主“怀了别人的孩子”,没有震怒,而是让公主自己抉择,堪为现实中“官二代”的楷模。第四,公主作出选择之后,前男友离开,王子陪公主看医生,打掉了孩子,从此两人开开心心过日子。这种平等和豁达的生活态度,恐怕让很多成年人无地自容。此外,这个孩子还没有忽视堕胎过程中女性经受的痛苦,写下了“脚下流了很多血”这样的细节。

这个孩子犯下的最大错误,似乎是他写了自己“不该知道的事情”,那就是堕胎。可是,一个孩子过早地知道了成人的烦恼,并把它写出来,这算是什么错呢?何况堕胎在中国十分普遍,人流广告随处可见,孩子有所闻见,值得人们大惊小怪吗?再说,什么叫“过早”呢?一个孩子琢磨宇宙从哪里来,研究怎样杀死癌细胞,读孟子思辨或者黑格尔哲学,我们会如此忧心忡忡吗?或者,这位小学生以同样的方式改写童话,但是内容是王子公主学雷锋做好事,老师又会怎样打分呢?

说到底,是成人们虚伪的性道德和陈腐的婚恋伦理在作怪。他们告诉孩子王子和公主相爱,但是不想让他们知道,王子和公主相遇之前也可能和别人相爱;他们告诉孩子王子和公主结婚以后会生孩子,但是不想让他们知道,也有意外怀孕的时候;他们想让孩子以为,幸福的婚姻生活就是从一而终,跟别人怀孕堕胎后怎么还能“开开心心过日子”?

当然,我并不否认孩子的认知和理解能力跟年龄有关,也认为性、婚恋及生死等问题不必过早地主动告诉他们。但是,如果他们已经有所了解,并提出问题,就应该诚实地回答。比如堕胎问题,其中关于生命伦理和女性权利的争论,关于医疗技术,如果他们想了解,都可以简明扼要告知。当然,一个语文老师未必认为自己有这个责任和能力,但是至少应该知道,孩子过早地涉及“不该知道的事情”,没有什么可嘲笑的,遑论惩罚及示众。

学生的作文、日记及学习成绩,就跟成人的日常生活及工资收入一样,应该被视作孩子的隐私,除了老师、学校及家长作必要了解之外,不可以随便公之于众。作文更有版权问题,未经作者本人或监护人同意,任何人不可以公开发表、转载及出版。老师、家长及媒体随意晒学生作文,哪怕是出于好意,用作赞赏,也是违法行为。即便不懂法律,拿别人的东西,就不知道问一声吗?

在这个“堕胎作文”事件的整个过程中,我没有看到成人们对孩子的尊重、理解、关爱和赞赏,只有建立在虚伪的伦理焦虑之上的取笑、批评、贬损和打击。这不是我们对待孩子及教育的应有态度。当事老师、媒体及网民可能会辩解说,这是为了引起社会对儿童教育的重视。我想说,没有抽象的社会,首先应该重视的是我们自己的行为。

(作者为自由撰稿人)



Source : Nanfang Zhoumo

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<p>When children bring up 'unmentionables' early than expected, they shouldn't be laughed at, and certainly not punished or made examples of.</p>  <p>When children bring up unmentionables earlier than expected, they shouldnt be laughed at, and certainly not punished or made examples of.</p>
<p>Once upon a time, there was a kingdom, in which the King and Queen were desperately begging the Prince to find a princess to marry. The King commanded all the eligible girls to be rounded up for the Prince to take his pick. The Prince chose a girl named Lina, and married her. One day, Lina went out to play with a young man named Vladimir, and told the Prince that Vladimir was her former boyfriend. Vladimir told the Prince that Lina was carrying his child. The Prince gave Lina a choice: stay with him, but get rid of the child, or stay with Vladimir, and get divorced. Lina chose to have an abortion. The Prince summoned a famous doctor. Lina drank a concoction the doctor made, and had the Prince strike her stomach twenty times. Blood flowed, and the baby was no more. From that day, the Prince and the Princess lived happily together.  <p>Once upon a time, there was a kingdom, in which the King and Queen were desperately begging the Prince to find a princess to marry. The King commanded all the eligible girls to be rounded up for the Prince to take his pick. The Prince chose a girl named Lina, and married her. One day, Lina went out to play with a young man named Vladimir, and told the Prince that Vladimir was her former boyfriend. Vladimir told the Prince that Lina was carrying his child. The Prince gave Lina a choice: stay with him, but get rid of the child, or stay with Vladimir, and get divorced. Lina chose to have an abortion. The Prince summoned a famous doctor. Lina drank a concoction the doctor made, and had the Prince strike her stomach twenty times. Much blood flowed underfoot, and the baby was no more. From that day, the Prince and the Princess lived happily together.
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<p>This is a piece a Fuzhou third grader wrote for a test. When the teacher saw it, he gave it -10 points, and then 'shared' a photo of it with friends on Weibo. Then the media picked it up, and ran a story about how it made people shudder and break out in a cold sweat. Netizens wailed and moaned about how the poison of television dramas had penetrated deeply into today's children. <p>This is a piece a Fuzhou third grader wrote for a test. When the teacher saw it, he gave it -10 points, and then 'shared' a photo of it with friends on Weibo. Then the media picked it up, and ran a story about how it made people shudder and break out in a cold sweat. Netizens wailed and moaned about how the poison of television dramas had penetrated deeply into today's children.
</p> </p>
<p>For a really bad piece of work, a teacher can give a low mark, even a zero, but a negative score? Obviously, -10 is a very harsh, punitive grade. And even that didn't satisfy the teacher; his 'sharing' was really more like naming and shaming. Just in case the student, the parents, and friends had trouble identifying the culprit, he included a photo of the handwriting, and gave the student's name. </p> <p>For a really bad piece of work, a teacher can give a low mark, even a zero, but a negative score? Obviously, -10 is a very harsh, punitive grade. And even that didn't satisfy the teacher; his 'sharing' was really more like naming and shaming. Just in case the student, the parents, and friends had trouble identifying the culprit, he included a photo of the handwriting, and gave the student's name. </p>
<p>直到媒体找上门来,这位老师大概才觉得有什么不对,拒绝了采访。但是老师的拒绝并没有让记者有丝毫的反省,仍然进行了危言耸听的报道。网民们大呼小叫,几乎没有谁发现老师和媒体有什么问题,纷纷转发,写下无数贬损孩子的评论。</p>  
<p>一个小学生,结合自己了解的现实生活,改写童话故事,想象丰富,文字畅达,逻辑通顺,故事完整,难道不是一篇好作文吗?尤其可贵的是,作文中体现了尊重、包容和平等的思想。首先,他记录并讽刺了父母“催婚”的现象。其次,他能想到,国王滥用权力,举国选亲,被选中的陌生成年女子,有过男朋友,甚至怀有身孕,这是很正常的情况。这比那些死抱着“处女情结”的成年人,不知道要高明多少倍。第三,王子、公主和前男友都能坦然处理婚恋麻烦。王子知道公主“怀了别人的孩子”,没有震怒,而是让公主自己抉择,堪为现实中“官二代”的楷模。第四,公主作出选择之后,前男友离开,王子陪公主看医生,打掉了孩子,从此两人开开心心过日子。这种平等和豁达的生活态度,恐怕让很多成年人无地自容。此外,这个孩子还没有忽视堕胎过程中女性经受的痛苦,写下了“脚下流了很多血”这样的细节。</p> <p>Until the media camped outside his door, the teacher probably thought he hadn't done anything wrong, and refused to be interviewed. But his refusal didn't slow the reporters down; they kept printing their scaremongering reports. Netizens chimed in, and without anyone finding anything wrong with the teacher or the media, passed on the stories and wrote countless diatribes against the student. </p>
<p>这个孩子犯下的最大错误,似乎是他写了自己“不该知道的事情”,那就是堕胎。可是,一个孩子过早地知道了成人的烦恼,并把它写出来,这算是什么错呢?何况堕胎在中国十分普遍,人流广告随处可见,孩子有所闻见,值得人们大惊小怪吗?再说,什么叫“过早”呢?一个孩子琢磨宇宙从哪里来,研究怎样杀死癌细胞,读孟子思辨或者黑格尔哲学,我们会如此忧心忡忡吗?或者,这位小学生以同样的方式改写童话,但是内容是王子公主学雷锋做好事,老师又会怎样打分呢?</p>  
<p>说到底,是成人们虚伪的性道德和陈腐的婚恋伦理在作怪。他们告诉孩子王子和公主相爱,但是不想让他们知道,王子和公主相遇之前也可能和别人相爱;他们告诉孩子王子和公主结婚以后会生孩子,但是不想让他们知道,也有意外怀孕的时候;他们想让孩子以为,幸福的婚姻生活就是从一而终,跟别人怀孕堕胎后怎么还能“开开心心过日子”?</p>  
<p>当然,我并不否认孩子的认知和理解能力跟年龄有关,也认为性、婚恋及生死等问题不必过早地主动告诉他们。但是,如果他们已经有所了解,并提出问题,就应该诚实地回答。比如堕胎问题,其中关于生命伦理和女性权利的争论,关于医疗技术,如果他们想了解,都可以简明扼要告知。当然,一个语文老师未必认为自己有这个责任和能力,但是至少应该知道,孩子过早地涉及“不该知道的事情”,没有什么可嘲笑的,遑论惩罚及示众。</p>  
<p>学生的作文、日记及学习成绩,就跟成人的日常生活及工资收入一样,应该被视作孩子的隐私,除了老师、学校及家长作必要了解之外,不可以随便公之于众。作文更有版权问题,未经作者本人或监护人同意,任何人不可以公开发表、转载及出版。老师、家长及媒体随意晒学生作文,哪怕是出于好意,用作赞赏,也是违法行为。即便不懂法律,拿别人的东西,就不知道问一声吗?</p>  
<p>在这个“堕胎作文”事件的整个过程中,我没有看到成人们对孩子的尊重、理解、关爱和赞赏,只有建立在虚伪的伦理焦虑之上的取笑、批评、贬损和打击。这不是我们对待孩子及教育的应有态度。当事老师、媒体及网民可能会辩解说,这是为了引起社会对儿童教育的重视。我想说,没有抽象的社会,首先应该重视的是我们自己的行为。</p>  
  <p>A primary school student, using what they understand of their own life, rewrites a fairy tale that shows abundant imagination, lucid prose, and clear logic, and forms a complete whole, but it still doesn't count as a good composition? What's more, the story is written with respect, tolerance, and fairness. First, he observes and satirizes the phenomenon of rushed marriages. Then he is able to conceive that a king abusing his power, a whole country being involved in the selection of a bride, and the lady plucked from obscurity not only already having a boyfriend, but already being pregnant by him as well, as an unremarkable state of affairs. This is far superior to those adults clinging to their “holy virgins”. Thirdly, the Prince, the Princess and her lover all calmly sort out the mess. The Prince, finding his bride carrying another man's child, doesn't fly off the handle, and lets her choose, setting an example for real-life “officialings”. Fourthly, after the Princess makes her choice, and the ex-boyfriend leaves, the Prince goes with her to the doctor, and takes part in the abortion himself, and they live happily ever after. This sort of fair and open-minded approach to life is, I'm afraid, well beyond the reach of most adults. In addition, this student has not neglected the female pain and suffering inherent in the abortion process, as can be seen in details like “much blood flowed underfoot”. </p>
  <p>This student's biggest crime, it seems, was to write about things he was “too young to understand”, i.e. abortion. But for a child to have early knowledge of the things that trouble adults, and to write about them, is that really a crime? Abortions are commonplace in China, there are advertisements for them everywhere, and children will know something about it; is this really worth making a fuss about? Also, what counts as “early”? If this child were wondering where the universe came from, researching how to kill cancer cells, reading the theories of Mencius or the philosophy of Hegel, would we be tearing our hair out like this? Or, if this student had written the same fairy tale, but made it about the Prince and Princess learning from Lei Feng and dong good deeds, what grade would the teacher have given him?</p>
  <p>The truth is, it's the empty sexual morality and meaningless marriage ethics of adults that's at the root of the problem. They tell their children that the Prince and Princess love each other, but don't want to let them know that before they met each other, they may have loved other people; they tell their children that after they get married, the Prince and Princess can have children, but they don't want to let them know that sometimes there can be unexpected pregnancies; they want their children to think that happy married life lasts forever, so how can you live “happily ever after” after getting pregnant with someone else and aborting the child?</p>
  <p>Obviously, I'm not denying the link between a child's age and what he can understand, or arguing that we need to tell our children all about sex, marriage, life and death. But, if they know a little, and ask questions, we should answer them honestly. For example, the abortion issue, including the debates about bioethics, women's rights, and medical technology, can all be explained simply and concisely if they want to know. Naturally, a language teacher need not think that they have to do this, or even that they can, but they should at least understand that when a child mentions the “unmentionable”, it's nothing to make fun of or publicly rebuke.</p>
  <p>A student's assignments, schedule and grades should be like an adult's daily habits and salary: they should be regarded as the child's private life. Apart from the teacher, the school and the parents, who need to know, they can't be shown willy-nilly to all and sundry. The assignments especially are subject to copyright; without the writer's or guardian's permission, no one can reproduce, share or publish them. Teachers, parents or media who share a student's work in this way, even if it's out of good intentions or to praise the student, are acting unlawfully. Even if you don't understand the law, you surely know that you shouldn't take someone else's things without asking.</p>
  <p>Throughout this whole “abortion story” episode, I haven't seen the adults showing any respect, understanding, concern or appreciation for the child, only mockery, criticism, belittlement and attacks based on hypocritical ethics of concern. This is not the attitude we should take towards the treatment and education of children. The teacher, the media, and the internet community might say in their defence that they were drawing the attention of society to the importance of childhood education. I would say, never mind some abstract 'society', it's our own behavior that we should be paying attention to. </p>
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